One of our school teachers asked a question, and I think it is an important and somewhat ambiguous question. In a presentation class, we talked about the advice that some people give to others, such as when you ask about something you want to do, and some advise you to leave it and others to do it. Here, the teacher asked the following question: How do we distinguish between a good advisor and a bad one? That is, we say that someone who supports and encourages us is good, and we say that someone who stands against us is controlling us and is against our success?

First, the advice should come from someone close to you who knows your way of thinking, your abilities, and even your future goals, so he advises you according to these matters, especially since he is the person closest to him. Second, the person who gives the advice should be experienced and have a comprehensive view.

Also, before giving advice, he should ask about the reasons why the person is doing that thing and the goal behind it. All this is so that the advisor does not make a mistake and give advice that harms the person more than it benefits him. The advice may be adjusted to the determination and call for surrender and not trying to achieve the goal, while that person is able and his goal is good and successful.

The opposite may happen, so the advice is more encouraging than the person’s capabilities and its goals harm that person more than they benefit him and become a waste of his life, time and capabilities. I think that one of the most difficult things is giving advice to others, especially those who are very close to you, so you fall into the mistake of harming more than benefiting,.

The topic remains a subject of discussion. What is your opinion on this matter?